Needing hugs, but no more chocolate

[vivien]

This weekend was so wonderful. Yesterday's hihg tea and girlie happenings was so immensely wonderful. And then Monday happened. I had an itnerview scheduled for tomorrow. The principla called and left a message with my husband - not even trying to personally contact me - cancelling it. She'd talked to my previous principals and decided I wasn't enough of a team player to bother interviewing. This has never happened before. I'm really shocked and dismayed. But what can I do? I am dropping the older of the references off my list altogether because I did have trouble at that school with my team of very unpleasant teachers. But my last job, I can't believe my former boss would say that. Teaming with my colleagues weas a big strength, I thought. I was told that former principal also played up my strengths at least. So depressing. It really hurts and makes me afraid. And after such a happy weekend, it makes it that much worse. Suck, suck, suckity suck, with a side of "Fuck you, bitch!!!!!"

So now I'm retreating to something fun from slytherincess:

80s Music MeMe

5 popular songs that you still aren't tired of hearing yet:
"Father Figure" George Michael
"Rio" Duran Duran
"Get Into the Groove" Madonna
"How Soon Is Now" the Smiths (okay, not that popular, but in some circles it was)
"Gloris" U2


5 popular songs you never want to hear again as long as you live:

"I Wanna Dance with Somebody" Whitney Houston
"Walk Like an Egyptian" the Bangles
"Beat It" Michael Jackson
"Pour Some Sugar on Me" Def Leppard
"We're Not Gonna Take It" Twisted Sister

5 songs that made you jump in front of the mirror and sing to your hairbrush:

"Why Can't I Be You" the Cure
"Lovecats" the Cure
"Don't You Want Me Baby" Human League
"The Reflex" Duran Duran
"Goody Two Shoes" Andam Ant

5 ballads that made you ache with their beauty:

"Do You Really Want to Hurt Me" Culture Club
"True" Spandau Ballet
"China Doll" Julian Cope
"Children's Crusade" Sting
"They Dance Alone" Sting

5 bands you really miss:
Adam Ant
Tears for Fears
The Police
The Smiths
Crowded House


5 bands you don't miss even a teeny tiny bit:

Motley Crue
Def Leppard
Twisted Sister
Nelson
New Order (I may be the only alternative/new wave listener who DESPISES all things New Order)


5 songs that bring back vivid memories (and, if it's not too personal, which ones):

"Bela Lugosi's Dead" Bauhaus: Gothed up on the corner of the mall in Lawton, OK, dancing like whirling dervishes before the carnival entrance, many people staring
"Swan Swan H" REM: Walking around the Ft. Sill neighborhood with Mike. Hoping, so hoping...
"OpenArms" Journey: Polo cologne, slow dancing with Jeff
"New Moon on Monday" Duran Duran - MTV world premiere, screaming in the back bedroom with Janis
"Strange Girl" the Cure: cued up in car on the first night Snorri drove me home from play rehearsal to the dorm.


5 songs you're pretty sure nobody else remembers:

"Don't Look Down" - Torch Song
"Wages of Sin" the Rainmakers
"Reverend Jack and His Roaming Cadillac Church" Timbukthree
"Seasons Cycle" XTC
"Sex Dwarf" Soft Cell

Comments

[misslucyjane]

**comfort**

And I remember "Sex Dwarf." My local alternative station still plays it sometimes. Luring disco dollies to a life of vice . . .

[vivien]

I was a huge Soft Cell fan back in the day. Of course, I never let my mom listen to the music ;)

Grrrrrrr....

[labellerose.livejournal.com]

**Shakes fist at Principal of evil!***

**Hugs Viv**

**Rembers shopping for fish while,um, slightly loopy at a pet store in Portland while singing along to Karma Chameleon**

Hugs and Music Recommendations

[(Anonymous)]

Hey Michelle, don't let this get you down, just drop that person from your references list.

Here's
(1) a
(2) some ok advice about how to check your own references:
http://www.hospitalityonline.com/getting-hired/check-references/
and three
(3)If you can find them, try and track down the following 80's bands, you might like them: Dali's Car, Teardrop Explodes, and Tones on Tail. (You might also try The Jazz Butcher Conspiracy.. but you might want to just stick with their '80s material.)

James.

Re: Hugs and Music Recommendations

[vivien]

Thanks so much for the advice. I am definitely dropping the older reference. As for my previous one, I think I'll bring copies of my summative evaluation for interviewers to keep. Just so they can see what was actually in writing.

We have some Dali's Car and Teardrop Explodes - tee hee, great minds think alike, eh?

The Jazz Butcher Conspiracy, hmm? I am intriugued.

[adjudicated.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry! *lifts leg on shitty principals* You know... the term "team player" is such a crock of shit. It's usually only pulled out by people in management positions to coerce subordinates into rigidly following a very specific agenda -- it really has nothing to do with working together and acknowledging everyone's strengths and difficulties and fleshing out the group accordingly.

Could you request 30 minutes with the last principal you worked with and ask to be told what it is that was so concerning? That way, when you go into an interview, and they ask you (because they always do!) you might be able to offer the following: "Well, yes, I've worked hard at X,Y,Z, and here's the things I've done/am doing to increase my skills in this area."

Nonetheless, that just sucks. I'm now off to read your MeMe.

[vivien]

Such good advice - and such truth too about the "team player" crap. My current supervisor couldn't believe this (she knows I'm looking for another job and is extremely cool about it).

I do plan on contacting my old principal and finding out what she is saying about me. And I also thought I'd bring copies of my summative evaluation for interviewers from now on so they can see what was actually praised in writing.

Stupid principals.

WTF?!?!?

[anamazonruns.livejournal.com]

I don't believe that! You are the teamiest of team players! That SUCKS! Tell me who she is and I'll have my dad send some of his friends to visit.

That is totally effing BULLSHIT and I hope you know it. You are beautiful and wonderful and totally right that teamwork is a strength. whoever said different is FULL OF CRAP.

Sorry hon. Something good will happen for you.

Re: WTF?!?!?

[vivien]

Thanks so much. I don't know what the hell it was all about, but I am dropping the earlier principal altogether as a reference. I hope that will help. To be honest, I did not do well with that team that brief year - they were jerks and I was Stress Girl and it was really unpleasant. Never showed up as a problem on any of my evaluations though, and that's what pisses me off.

Something good has happened to me - I have wonderful, wonderful friends :)